Subtle signs in your romance to feel reassured that the feeling is mutual

#1 It’s been made official, obviously. If you two lovebirds had the whole “we should be an item,” conversation, then things are pretty clear. The reason you’re reading this article is either because your partner forgot about the conversation, or you’re having a terrible time.
 
#2 Monogamous—you’re just sleeping with each other. This is a huge sign. Say you haven’t had the “official” conversation yet, but you’ve established that you’re not sleeping with other people. That means there’s a chance you’re easing into a serious relationship with the person, but are waiting to become an official item.

#3 Both parties see a potential future together. It may sound obvious, but people get tunnel vision and focus on the present, so it’s a good reminder: being in a serious relationship means you’re aiming for a future together. There are too many couples out there that simply don’t work, for various reasons *immaturity, incompatibility, different goals, etc*. To build a future, you have to focus on your level of compatibility. How good of a chance do you really have at making it work for the rest of your lives? This is something that was considered, and weighed in at “let’s try this.”


#4 If trust is ever broken, the relationship suffers. In a casual setting, people expect their sexual partners to have other sexual partners. If someone lies, no real emotion is involved. Meanwhile, in a relationship, these things will break trust, and trust is not something you want to lose. It’s almost impossible to get back and, chances are, you’ll spend your time kissing your partner’s feet and feeling inferior, until the love is gone on both sides.

#5 Sex is more meaningful. Sure, casual sex is pretty easy to come by, but at the end of the day, it means nothing more than the motion of the ocean. Sex in a relationship is meaningful, because there’s a love connection there *hopefully*, and it makes the act more than just about lust.

#6 You know each others’ friends. Your friends have been around for however long, so they’re important to you. If you introduce someone to them, then they did something right and earned their way to your friends. If it wasn’t serious, you’d never come close.

#7 Strong emotional connection. When two people get together in a serious relationship, regardless of anything else *even common sense, sometimes*, they have a strong emotional connection. The love is there, and that’s a word that isn’t used in a causal relationship. You miss the person when they’re gone, you put energy into making them happy, and you include them in decision-making. There’s both a want, and a healthy level of need, to have that person in your life.

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