Little things that make a big difference in a woman’s eyes

Are you one of these men who don’t know what it takes to be a real gentleman? And are you looking to change up your game so you can transform from the guy a woman would never date to a modern gentleman? If the answer is yes, read on and learn how you can turn into the gentleman that women would be clamoring to go out with.

He calls only when he needs something. He replies to a lady’s texts after more than a day. He doesn’t bother with getting the door for her, letting her sit first or listening to what she has to say. And to top it all off, he makes her pay for dinner on the first date and sends her off on a cab ride home.
If this is the description of how the modern man dates women, then chivalry must really be dead!
Now, some men can’t be blamed for behaving like this. It’s entirely possible that they have no idea how to be a gentleman. With so many rom-coms and TV shows depicting men in this light, there are some young men out there who don’t have the slightest idea how to treat a lady.

What makes some men charming and attractive in a woman’s eyes?

#1 Open the door for her. It simply never gets old. Yes, you’re aware that a woman is just as capable as you of opening doors. But the gesture itself is a sign that you’re willing to do this little thing for her. Not only does it show that you’re a proper gentleman, but it may also be admired for being such a polite and chivalrous guy.

#2 Let her sit first. Much like getting the door for her, assisting her in settling down onto a chair isn’t something you do because she needs help. It just shows that you care about her comfort and that you would put it before your own. In addition, it also gives you an excuse to be a little bit closer to her without being a creep.

#3 Take off your headgear indoors. Hats, caps and other forms of headgear were made to protect you from the elements. But what elements do you need protection from when you’re inside a house, a restaurant or a cinema? We know that fedoras, caps and do rags complete your overall look, but it’s simply not polite to keep them on when you’re indoors. No matter how bad you think your hair looks, it can’t possibly look worse than being deemed an uncouth oaf.

#4 Mind your basic table manners. If you don’t practice this at home when you’re eating takeout in front of the TV, make it a point to at least read about it online. The basics include not resting your elbows on the table, chewing with your mouth closed and not slurping the soup. Manners are what differentiate a gentleman from an uncivilized slob.

#5 Don’t touch other people’s things. This is pretty much a no-brainer, but so many men *and some women* seem to forget this. Let’s consider a scenario, shall we? You’re out on a date with a girl and you notice that her bag is on the table. It’s keeping you from settling your glass down onto the proper place.

Moving the bag and pushing it towards her would not only be rude, but it also shows you that you have no respect for her things. What you should do instead, is request her to please put her bag on the chair or to hang it up on those bag hooks beneath the table. Remember, you never ever have permission to touch other people’s stuff, so do what’s right and ask first.

#6 Control how many drinks you’ll have or don’t drink at all. Manners, chivalry and politeness can easily fly right out the window once you’ve had a couple of pints in you. So unless you know how to hold your alcohol well, avoid ordering that fourth beer. It will help you curb the urge to burp uncontrollably too.
In addition to this, getting drunk on a date is in very bad form. You might say or suggest things that are downright vulgar, while in your mind you’re thinking they’d make for perfectly proper date conversation. Watch what you drink and what you say or else you might get a slap in the face.

#7 Listen to what she has to say. Nothing is ruder than blatantly paying attention to other things when someone is clearly trying to talk to you. Even if your date is talking about something you find absolutely boring, make it a point to try and listen to her. If you can, try to steer the conversation towards something you would both find interesting.
This is one of the many reasons men should not ask a woman out on a date based on her looks alone. You have to have some common ground between the both of you so that you’d actually have something to bond over.

#8 Avoid crass or vulgar humor. No one likes a person who’s socially insensitive. If you’re on a date with someone you really like, the last thing you’d want to do is offend her. So before you whip out your dick jokes *no pun intended*, try to instead make her laugh with something wittier. And don’t think for a moment that insulting other people will immediately get you a laugh from her!

#9 Keep your phone off limits while you’re on a date. Just imagine really hitting it off and having a great conversation with your date, and suddenly your phone starts ringing. Before you even enter the restaurant, you should already keep your phone on silent. Not only will its ringing disrupt your conversation, but it may also disturb other diners.
Also, resist the urge to check your phone every couple of minutes while you’re out. Even if your date is incredibly boring, what could possibly be on your phone that can’t wait until after the date?

#10 When asking a lady out, give her a few days’ notice. Asking her out on the spot may be spontaneous, sure, and some women dig that. But if you’re looking for propriety, ask her out a few days before the intended date. Do this so that she won’t be caught off guard and so that she won’t have to cancel her plans for your sake.

#11 Call more, text less. The problem with texting is that it can sometimes feel so impersonal. There’s no tone and there are no nonverbal cues to get out of them. Whenever you need to say something important to a lady, make it a point to call her up. Not only does this convey your sincerity better, but it also shows her that you’re willing to make some time to call her.

#12 Be clear with what you want, but don’t be tactless. The coquetry of modern dating can sometimes be a problem for both men and women. Going out for lunch or coffee may be misinterpreted as a date or just “hanging out.” The woman you’re dating may find this confusing, so it’s best to tell her your intentions outright.
Don’t go around saying, “I want to sleep with you and maybe be in a relationship with you” because no one in their right mind would say that. For starters, you can say something like, “I really like your company. I’d like to ask you out on a date.” This would instantly eliminate the ambiguity of why you’re always asking for her company. It shows her what your intentions are, and allows her to make decisions based on what you just said.

#13 Break up with her in person. If things don’t work out between you and your date, the least you can do is tell her in person. A text, a phone call, an email or even a post-it on her refrigerator is never ever acceptable unless it’s in the direst of circumstances.

She deserves to hear it straight from you so that she has the chance to respond. Ignoring her simply because you’re not into her anymore is not only completely rude, but it can be very hurtful, especially if she has already developed feelings for you.
There are many rules to being a refined gentleman, but if you can master these 13 rules of etiquette for the modern gentleman, you’ll inch your way closer to being an ideal chivalrous man in a world of ill-mannered brats!

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