Do you know why girls play hard to get?

Knowing how to play hard to get with a guy is the difference between becoming desirable and being overlooked.

But most men do say it puts them off. So why do girls play hard to get anyways?

And are men really telling the truth? Does playing hard to get turn them off?


Guys may get frustrated when they have to put up with girls who play hard to get, but they too, would accept that they like it when girls play hard to get.

Well, at least most men would.


We’ve seen it happen several times, in movies, amongst friends and in several other places full of frenzied dating activities.

Women love playing hard to get, and they usually play hard to get even if they like the guy.

This is pretty much the “pre-courting” of the courting days in humans.

When most men were asked, they admitted that they love it when girls play hard to get.

Why do they like it? And how to learn to play hard to get, and make it work in your advantage?

Firstly, you should know that playing hard to get gives men something to fight for. After all, men just have the most competitive and egoistic craniums in the history of the world.

And don’t we all know how much men love a good challenge. When a man wants to woo a girl and sweep her off her feet, he’s doing this before any other fanciable man could sweep this girl away, amidst stiff competition.

Along with the happy feeling of wooing this woman, a man also gets an ego boost. It was him that she chose after all that playing hard to get, and not anyone else, so what does this make him in her eyes, an alpha male of sorts. He is the “almost-perfect-definition” of the male species in her eyes.

Most girls know how to play hard to get with a guy, but they don’t know all the rules. Playing hard to get is a big boost, but at times, it’s a big turn off for a guy when a girl keeps spurning him all the time.

If you think a guy is fanciable, and you’ve been keeping him on ice all this while, it’s time for you to give away a few signs to show that your freezing heart is finally starting to thaw.

The guy may be on a conquest to steal your heart, but there would be times when even he might feel like he’s fighting a losing battle when you overdo the game of playing hard to get. This is when that little smile or the fluttering eyelid and a hug or a cute public display of affection of sorts would give him a new source of renewed vigor.

Some girls play hard to get with a guy all the time, while some girls are overly friendly and flip their lid for the first guy who makes a move at them. Based on scientific studies, it is seen that men are not put off by either of these women. But the one woman who can turn a guy on at all times is the woman who is “selectively playing hard to get”.


The selectively playing hard to get girl is usually happier in a relationship for a longer time, and would hardly ever get dumped or two-timed.

Two subsequent studies supported this idea. The selectively playing hard to get woman is the one who is easy for “the guy” to get, but hard for all other men to get. She is happy to date this special guy, she talks sweet with other men, but she declines dates from all other men and never really oversteps her boundaries. This keeps the selective man who’s wooing her on a high. He respects her more, and each time he is with her, he realizes how lucky he is to have her around him.

So we can safely say that the optimal strategy would be to give the impression that you have many offers for dates with other guys, but you refuse them, while indicating that you are willing to date the one guy in your life, although it will take some effort on his part to persuade you to completely give yourself in.

If you think about it, this makes sense. It is a much enjoyed ego boost for the man to know that he is dating a woman who could be with countless other men. But at the same time, when you play hard to get with a guy, it keeps him on turbo-boost when it comes to impressing you because he’s still scared of losing you.

Knowing how to play hard to get with a guy can be the difference between keeping a guy interested and losing him!